Thursday, May 2, 2013

Hurry up & wait...some more

So we all know the navy loves to play the "hurry up and wait" game. In fact I believe it's their mantra. We waited an entire year to find out if my husband was PTS approved, (for those of you not affiliated with the military it stands for perform to serve) and now that we have that good news we are still waiting on our orders. The frustrating thing about all this is that my husband has been on sea duty for the last three years and WAS supposed to be at his new command as of March 1st. 

Seeing as he wasn't even PTS approved until April that obviously hasn't happened. I am so anxious for him to get off that ship I can't even begin to tell you. We've been through two back to back deployments, one of which was nearly 11 months and the longest naval deployment in history since WWII. Lucky us right? 

Now I try my best not to complain about my husbands job because I know it could always be worse and I am thankful he has a way to provide for us and that we have healthcare and a roof over our heads. However, even with all those benefits sometimes it would just be nice to know where you will be living in a few months. Will you be closer to family, will you be able to go somewhere new and exciting...? I only wish I knew. On top of the long wait we've already had we just found out they have extended my husbands stay on his ship until October. :( 

Now I'm still trying to stick to my goal this year to "live in the moment" and be happy in the here and now, but I am so upset about this. I really wanted to be moved out of VA by this summer and go on to the next chapter of our lives. I am so tired of this place. Three years here is more than enough for me. Right now we are in a tiny one bedroom apartment and its very cramped with the three of us and all our stuff in here. We desperately need to move into a two bedroom so Jeremiah has his own space but it looks like we're gonna have to wait another six months until that's possible. I might just lose my sanity by then! 

I really wish the navy was more organized sometimes. When they put us through all this "Hurry up and wait" it really takes a toll on the sailors and their families. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but its easier said than done. I am trying to leave it in god's hands and not stress about it too much. Hopefully we'll at least know where we're going pretty soon so I can start planning our move. 

For those of you who are mil spouses have you been through anything like this when it comes to re-enlistments or orders? 


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1 comment:

  1. I am so nervous about the whole picking orders process if David stays in, I am really hoping that we don't have to go through it! I just have this gut feeling that he is going to stay in though, he said the other day he feels he has earned his shore duty, but he will never willing go out to sea again. At least that is one good thing! I hope you guys find out where you are going soon!