tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post7612813077038137877..comments2023-05-10T05:23:18.027-04:00Comments on Brittney Liann : What to do when work takes over your life and your marriage?Brittneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03826972932495686229noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-10869298268241197512011-02-14T01:37:59.717-05:002011-02-14T01:37:59.717-05:00Your blogs always touch me! I've been feeling...Your blogs always touch me! I've been feeling down in the dumps regarding these SAME issues with my husband. You have helped me, just to read your blog and know that there are other navy wives out there that have the same things going on. Makes it be more of a wide problem and not just one that is personal between my hubby and I. I read this today and cried my eyes out. These are all such valid concerns you have and want to thank you for opening up. You have no idea how much it helped me. Thank you Thank you Thank you! :)Amy_Simshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05292527343679040569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-6100929519940423432011-02-12T09:07:33.233-05:002011-02-12T09:07:33.233-05:00I left you something in my blogI left you something in my blogChellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07424722936411275507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-76229531866141844972011-02-11T22:19:32.766-05:002011-02-11T22:19:32.766-05:00Brittney, I think if you were to speak to your hus...Brittney, I think if you were to speak to your husband from your heart and tell him all of this you would find he would be open to your needs.<br /><br />Marriage is hard. and you're both dealing with a lot of work :) it will settle again at some point. until then, just talk to him :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18244745647291884130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-70722710539699401672011-02-11T19:48:46.060-05:002011-02-11T19:48:46.060-05:00Equal, at least in my opinion, doesn't necessa...Equal, at least in my opinion, doesn't necessarily mean that things are in fact 'equal'. I've heard a lot about this part of the bible. About women 'serving' their husbands needs before their own. I'm an atheist, but I did try out this principle after reading an email about being a 1950's housewife. And it worked? The more I did for my husband, the more he did for me. I'm not saying that will hold true all the time, but in my experimentation it has. <br /><br />Marriage ebbs and flows in this way though. Sometimes we feel ignored and sometimes we feel loved. Sometimes we feel like we need more help and sometimes we really feel like we can do it alone. You will get through it even though right now it feels challenging.Jessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04536607888498028285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-25248335111303218282011-02-11T17:47:22.390-05:002011-02-11T17:47:22.390-05:00Nope your not! & it's so funny.. I was jus...Nope your not! & it's so funny.. I was just talking to my friend about this because she is also struggling with it! I wish I knew what to say...but you're not alone, sometimes the bible doesn't make sense at all. If you go to church, I would suggest asking your pastor or someone who could help explain it and hear their thoughts on it. I always enjoy hearing what other people think and get from certain verses in the bible. <br /><br />I hope you two can find the time to spend with each other :)Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06578767786254390635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-16277397151649385832011-02-11T16:22:24.723-05:002011-02-11T16:22:24.723-05:00I don't think we are to put our own needs and ...I don't think we are to put our own needs and feelings aside , but I do believe that as man of the household they carry a lot of weight on their shoulders. They go to work and do a VERY strenuous job and support a family, and it is our job as a loving wife to let them know that they are doing a good job of the tasks that lay before them. <br />I know it's hard and we all have those days Brittney... I want nothing more than to please Joshua, but sometimes there are just days where he irks me to no end!<br />We dealt with that a lot during our first year of marriage, but I really asked God to help us both and He delivered. It's not going to be a quick fix... these things take time. Joshua and I are still working them out.<br />Just keep praying about it and God will give you the strength you need in your marriage, but Isaiah needs to be ready for change as well. <br />I have faith in yall. I've seen you guys in action. You guys are great together!!! This is just a stepping stone you're having to deal with. (:Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12551201404625497160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-74669745905167895822011-02-11T15:58:22.212-05:002011-02-11T15:58:22.212-05:00Those workup seasons are many times worse than the...Those workup seasons are many times worse than the actual deployment because of this kinda stuff -- I totally understand.<br /><br />Another few thoughts I had while reading this: love languages. I think you and your husband are speaking different ones. He's definitely not being as appreciative of the ways you have shown your love as you would like him to be.<br /><br />Also, I read a book once (can't remember the name unfortunately) about how the #1 need of a husband is to feel RESPECTED whereas our #1 need is to feel LOVED. I always think of that when I read that verse and it makes me feel less bitchy for being born a woman.Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11753603934212387119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-87834210810908183262011-02-11T15:58:14.350-05:002011-02-11T15:58:14.350-05:00awww Hon, I think that there's something in th...awww Hon, I think that there's something in the air in VA, because that's the way Sailorman and I have been feeling too. I can't begin to start talking about the fights we've had because I feel like I do more. It's almost like he doesn't understand how hard it is to be the support system. When you find a solution please let me know! Sailorman is working on being a better communicator, but it's a long and difficult road. I wish that there was an instant solution to this kind of a problem, but I think prayer and discussion, no matter how much there is resistance is the best way to deal with this.Mrs. Squirrelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05093555549686587749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-32945169867250631042011-02-11T14:40:08.123-05:002011-02-11T14:40:08.123-05:00I used to feel the same way, but once I studied an...I used to feel the same way, but once I studied and prayed more over the scripture I realized that besides all that being true, the husband also has a job to support his wife and make the best decisions he can for the family. The husband should should never ask or expect from his wife anything that he doesn't already give of himself. <br />(does that make sense?) <br />if the husband wants love and support, he needs to reciprocate so that the wife can follow his lead. <br />We should feel comfortable enough to know that when we "submit" to our husbands he will make the very best decision he can for the family (with our input first of course). It's all on him to step up and be the spiritual leader that God and ourselves need them to be.Amanda C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05503311148524728681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-25467897099017366882011-02-11T14:33:07.609-05:002011-02-11T14:33:07.609-05:00Big Hugs honey! Big Big Big ones! I read a book ...Big Hugs honey! Big Big Big ones! I read a book called "Love and Respect" About the vicious cycle. It won't make it all better, but maybe another point of view, and have your hubs read it too. ;) Us women have it very hard!Bella N Chiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16938827508311543684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4314269034886005077.post-19497441072287992132011-02-11T14:13:34.043-05:002011-02-11T14:13:34.043-05:00You are not the only one! My hubby and I got into...You are not the only one! My hubby and I got into a similar argument via email his last underway. I believe a relationship should be 50/50, but when your husband is in the military that seems to be a little hard. Well at least I think so. The best thing to do is just be there for each other as much as you can, and remember it is always very important to communicate with what each other needs. I hope you find the answers you are looking for.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11838852467817051769noreply@blogger.com